Book Review: Journeys: Stories of Pregnancy After Loss

Pregnancy after loss is a harrowing and nerve wracking experience.  Once you have lost a child through miscarriage, stillbirth, or as an infant, the world of pregnancy takes on a completely different look.  The blinders that we wore are stripped away and the innocence that we enjoyed is gone.

In the past, we might have been able to face the anticipation of a pregnancy with such hope for the future.

But when a pregnancy or a birth ends with the death of your child, those happy and blissful images of pregnancy disappear forever.

In her new book, Journeys: Stories of Pregnancy After Loss, Amy L. Abbey has brought together emotional and heart-felt experiences of miscarriage, stillbirth, and infant death as told by the parents who have lived it.  These tales are then coupled with the joyous stories of that same family’s successful subsequent pregnancy and child.  The result is a beautiful book that brings into focus the strength and hope that can follow the loss of a child.

Journeys is a must-read for anyone who has experienced pregnancy and infant loss, but especially for those who are looking fearfully ahead into their own future, trying to find hope in another pregnancy.  Families and friends of the bereaved parents might also find this book helpful in illustrating, in very stark and plain terms, the realities that so many families unfortunately have to face.

Pregnancy after loss is a tender and emotional thing.  So often, everyone around us wants to be so cheerful and exuberant about the wonderful news of a new beginning.  For everyone on the outside, pregnancy after loss is doubly happy and doubly exciting.  But what many fail to recognize is that for the parents who are now expecting another child, it is terrifying.  The joy does not come easily, and the fears that everyone will soon forget that special child who died are overwhelming.  Now that these parents have experienced life as that minority statistic whose pregnancy ended with a death, the idea that the odds are with them for a good outcome is meaningless.

There are few things more powerful than knowing there are others who have been there.  Reading these stories of loss and trying again, I was brought back into the pain as well as the joy of my own experiences.  So many of my own thoughts and feelings are mirrored in the stories told in this book. There is tremendous value in having my own feelings validated and knowing that I am not alone.  For anyone who has experienced a loss and is seeking avenues toward hope, this book is for you.

Journeys: Stories of Pregnancy After Loss is available in softcover, 183 pages, published by WovenWord Press .  For more about the author and this book, visit the author’s website here .