Child Loss Awareness License Plate – Colorado

Well, there it is!

After all these years and all the work that went into it, we here at RTF HQ are just smitten with our new license plate! The design has been finalized and we got the OK to share the news with all of you. These new plates will be available at DMV offices in January 2013.

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Thanksgiving Thoughts from RTF

It's Thanksgiving week here in the US, and we wanted to share a few thoughts about Thanksgiving and the holiday season.
  Rowan Tree Foundation is thankful for you, yes you. Every single person who has joined our cause is raising awareness - thereby increasing the chance that people will find support when they suffer the loss of a child. Spread the word. Join us on Facebook. Help us reach more people every day. We are also thankful for all of our volunteers, sponsors, and donors. We can't do all that we do to support grieving families without the gifts of your time and financial contributions, and good will.

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  Thanksgiving can be a difficult holiday for many bereaved parents, especially when their loss is new. New grief covers everything. Be gentle with those around you who are missing their child today. Say their child's name. Give them a squeeze and let them know that you see and that you care. If you are remembering a child and find it difficult to face the holidays, be gentle with yourself. Give yourself permission to do less. Tell your family and friends that you're struggling. Talk about your child. Light a candle for them today and every day.  Be aware that sometimes family and friends are looking to follow your lead when it comes to remembering your child, especially at family gatherings. It's okay to be the first to take that step. Most of all, know that you are not alone. Sending a wish for peace in your heart. On behalf of our Board and our Volunteers, Corinne O'Flynn Executive Director

Thanksgiving

As we celebrate Thanksgiving Day in the US, we wanted to extend our gratitude to you. Thankgiving2013 For the past ten years, Rowan Tree Foundation has been working toward growing our community. The goal has always been to increase the awareness of the work we do in order to spread the word to more and more people that support is available when you lose a child. We are thankkful for you, and your support, but most of all for allowing us to be a small part of your healing. We are also thankful for all of our volunteers, sponsors, and donors. We can’t do all that we do to support grieving families without the gifts of your time and financial contributions, and good will. Thank you! Thanksgiving can be a difficult holiday for many bereaved parents, especially when their loss is new. New grief covers everything. Be gentle with those around you who are missing their child today. Say their child’s name. Give them a squeeze and let them know that you see and that you care they might be hurting. If you are remembering a child and find it difficult to face the holidays, be gentle with yourself. Give yourself permission to do less. Tell your family and friends that you’re struggling. Talk about your child. Light a candle for them today and every day. Be aware that sometimes family and friends are looking to follow your lead when it comes to remembering your child, especially at family gatherings. It’s okay to be the first to take that step. Most of all, know that you are not alone. On behalf of our Board and our Volunteers, Corinne O’Flynn Executive Director

Mother’s Day 2014

It's Mother's Day in The US and it's snowing this morning in Colorado. And while we don't need a holiday in order to honor all the moms out there, we wanted to make sure to send a special note to let you know you are not alone. Holidays can be difficult for bereaved parents, and Mother's Day especially so. Thinking of all the moms today, with love and gentle hearts. MothersDay2014
photo by Rebecca Thompson Photography © Rowan Tree Foundation

Support RTF new Amazon Program

Guys! I hopped online to Amazon this morning and was so excited to finally see their notification that you can support a charity OF YOUR CHOICE by shopping through smile.amazon.com! I don't know about you, but we use Amazon a lot at our house, and we suspect many of you do too.  Please consider adding Rowan Tree Foundation to your Amazon Smile and we'll benefit while you shop as you normally do. The only requirement is that you start at smile.amazon.com. as your amazon home page.

Even better: NO COST TO YOU!

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Reading from 2013 Candlelight Remembrance

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  This year, we chose the snowflake for tonight’s memorial, and I’d like to share a little bit about that. To start, I’ve written a poem:

Behold the tiny snowflake So fleeting, so fragile Appreciated for its beauty Though it lasts only a short while

Notice the tiny snowflake So small when it's alone Yet it's power is magnified As they gather and appear as one

The snowflake is like my child As well it is like my grief Both singular and personal Universal and yet unique

You cannot behold my child For their stay was far too brief But perhaps you can appreciate their beauty As it takes form in my grief

-Corinne O'Flynn

Rabbi Simon Jacobson of The Meaningful Life Center wrote about Mysticism and how it “teaches that everything in the physical universe has a spiritual counterpart.” He explains that a teardrop is a manifestation of human emotion. Anger is an expression of repressed energy. And snow is also channeled energy. He suggests it is a spiritual voice appearing so that we can experience it with our senses. (You can read his whole article on the subject here. It is lovely and has changed the way I think about snow.)
To paraphrase Rabbi Jacobson: Water is a symbol of knowledge. Falling water represents the transmission of knowledge from a higher to a lower place, from teacher to student. On a cosmic level, rain and snow represent the different ways in which divine energy flows to us from a higher spiritual plane. A snowflake needs at least two components in order to form: water droplets and a nucleus made up of dust or other microscopic particles in the air. A snowflake is formed when water takes shape around these microscopic particles and the cold air turns it into ice. He goes on to say that a snowflake, because it has two components: water and earth—is also symbolic. Earth being the material world and water being knowledge of divine energy. Thus snow, being half heaven and half earth provides the perfect intermediary between these two worlds.
One of the most difficult aspects about coping after losing someone is the wonder. Where are they now? Where did they go when their body died? Are they in heaven? Are they still here? Do they watch over us? Do they see how deeply we love them? I think this is why we seek things that represent them to us in the world around us. The idea that snow could symbolize something more than the scientific creation of water freezing around a particle of dust appeals to me. In the same way we see our children in a butterfly, a dragonfly, in the trees, and in the stars... I see so much of my child and my grief in the snowflake.

A note about our memorial event on 12/7

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  Bundle up!!  Our memorial event is STILL ON for this Saturday, in spite of the frigid weather we are expecting. The weather is expected to be extremely cold (UPDATE: 1 is now predicted for the low, hopefully not hitting that at 6pm!) but not windy at all. In light of the low temps, we will be starting the program promptly at 6pm, and we will limit the readings that we normally do at the angel and saving those announcements and other "business" items for the reception. For those of you who are new to our event, we have a free reception right across the street at the Parker United Methodist Church. We will have hot cocoa, coffee, tea, as well as cake and other snacks. Feel free to bring a baked item to share, if you wish. Most of all, the church will be nice and warm for us. 🙂 We are looking forward to seeing you this weekend, and urge you to dress very warmly. Thank you!

Father’s Day 2013

Happy Father's Day to all the dad's out there who are remembering a child today. If you know a dad whose child has died, please reach out and let them know you're thinking about them and that you remember. They are still a dad.   FathersDay062013   This quote says it all. If you have not yet read any of Mitch Albom's books, you might give them a try.

Be an RTF Event Sponsor!

Every year, RTF hosts two memorial events at the RTF Angel Memorial Plaza, located at McCabe Meadows in Parker, CO. While our events have grown every year, financial support has not kept pace with our growthEmail Us or call 720-588-8693 with any questions about these or other sponsorship opportunities.

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Please help us keep running our events which are serving an increasing number of families who are remembering hundreds of children who have died. Our memorial events are free to attend, and managed completely by volunteers.

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 We need your support.

ABOUT US: 100% Volunteer *No Paid Staff* 501(c)3 Based in Parker, CO ALL our programs are FREE Serving families locally and worldwide

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Be gentle with yourself…

Even if you don't observe a specific holiday, it can be such painful reminder of family and those you've lost.

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